The story goes a long way back, probably all the way back to the day that I first laid eyes on her as she worked in the dispatch office at Hopkins. There was just something about her that intrigued me and I had to get to know more about this girl…and I did, but in the interest of time, I might as well skip the story a bit ahead. A more suitable starting point would perhaps be the last two weeks of my spring semester at Penn, right as I was getting ready for the last of my finals.
At this point, I had already made the decision that I would propose and I was eternally committed, especially given that the engagement ring sat on my desk as I prepped for my last finals. We had now been away from each other for a full year but the bond that held us together never faded even through the distance and the time zone difference. Through the trips back and forth and the late night Skype calls, we affirmed that we were going to go through this together, come what may. As I sat at my desk, I contemplated how I was going to plan the proposal. The first idea that popped into my head was that I would have to call her closest friends and share the news with them. I did warn them that I wanted to keep the proposal a secret but I wanted them to be available to answer her phone call in order to bask in her happiness after the proposal – or whatever it is girls do with each other after one of them becomes engaged.
After I shared the news with her friends, and also my friends since I could not keep it too well a secret, I started to envision what I wanted the proposal to resemble. Since I still had to fly to California for the proposal, I knew that maintaining specifics was impossible as I was still a bit unfamiliar with the area. One thing was certain – Daris and I were both traditional in our mannerism and I had to involve her family in the proposal if I wanted a hint of tradition. Plus, there had to be steak involved; Daris and I both love steak.
After the last of my finals, I flew to Florida to meet up with Daris. We had both flown to Florida to attend my friend’s wedding (Congrats Cuyler & Amanda), and we were flying back to California together where I would spend my vacation. During my time in California, we should celebrate the three-year anniversary of the day when we came together and this was the day that I would propose to her. While in California, I informed her mother of the news and set about planning the day. We (Daris’ mother and I) spent the day walking about Old Town in Pasadena until we found the perfect restaurant, the perfect location, and even brainstormed about the perfect way to include her family in the proposal, all very perfect.
The 14th of May fell on a Thursday and Daris had already taken the day off from all her prior scheduled activities. I had asked to spend the day with her under the guise of our three-year anniversary. We were to spend the whole day together doing numerous activities but life got in the way and Daris was pulled into handling some personal and trying family matters. I tried to console her during this time because I knew that I wanted her, no, needed her to be in the best of spirits before we headed out for the restaurant that night. By the time she resolved all the day’s issues, we were running a bit late and I started to panic, as I did not want to fall behind our schedule. The tardiness, coupled with a bit of anxiety on my part, got me skittish and Daris now endeavored to get me to relax, a stark reversal from earlier in the day.
The restaurant was a perfect as when I saw it the first time. We had arrived at the Arroyo Chop House and Daris started to notice the little extras the restaurant did to better accommodate us. The atmosphere was amazing and the food was delectable, yet even better than all that was the company. Daris and I were happy to be together celebrating three years since we met each other. Those were some arduous years filled with their crests and troughs but we made it and we knew that more was still to come. We were going to enjoy being in each other’s presence and forget the world for one night.
Following a scrumptious dinner, I informed Daris that we were to have dessert at a different location and we set off on the new adventure. As soon as we arrived and were nearer to the prearranged spot, I asked Daris if she would do everything I asked from this point herein, and not ask any questions. She replied in the affirmative, and then I asked her to close her eyes. As soon as they were closed, I started to recite the lines I had written as I carefully escorted her down the pathway to where her family stood waiting.
“Sweetie, I just want to tell you how lucky I am to have met you and to have you in my life. I know that there have been a lot of ups and downs in our lives (mostly ups though) but I know that you are nothing short of my everything. I have found my true love and I never want to be apart from you. God has put us together for a reason and I will live everyday for that reason.”
At this point, I ask her to open her eyes and she sees her family standing in front of her and she immediately becomes hysterical. She immediately rushes to close her eyes as I say,
“Sweetie, your family is here for the same reason that I am, to hear your answer to a very important question.”
I get down on one knee, and I ask,
“Daris, Will You Marry Me?”
Ecstatically, she screams, “Yes, Yes, Yes”… We hug and kiss and she slowly whispers in my ear “I love you”.